From “I don’t” to “I do”: How writing your own same-sex wedding vows can change your relationship

When my wife and I got married, we wrote our own vows. It was a process that brought us closer together and helped us to communicate our deepest thoughts and feelings for one another. We didn’t just recite the standard vows; we took the time to write our own, personalised ones.

It’s not just a cliche to say that your wedding day is one of the most important days of your life. It’s a day when you declare your love and commitment to one another in front of your closest family and friends. Your wedding vows are a key part of that declaration.

Vows are so important because they are a public statement of the promises you are making to each other. They are a declaration of your love and commitment that you are making in front of witnesses. Your vows are a way of saying, “I choose you. I will love you. I will support you. I am with you, no matter what.”

Writing your own vows is a way of making your wedding day even more special. It’s a way of personalising your ceremony and making it unique to you as a couple. When you write your own vows, you can say exactly what you feel in your heart.

The process of writing your own vows can also be a way of deepening your relationship. It’s an opportunity to reflect on your relationship and to communicate your thoughts and feelings to each other. Writing your own vows can be a way of strengthening your bond and increasing your intimacy.

Here are some tips for writing your own same-sex wedding vows:

1. Talk about what you love about each other.

When you’re writing your vows, it’s important to focus on the positive. This is not the time to list all of the things that annoy you about your partner! Think about what you love about them. What are the qualities that drew you to them in the first place? What makes them special to you?

2. Talk about your hopes for the future.

Your vows are not just about the present, they’re also about the future. What do you hope for your relationship? What are your hopes and dreams for your life together?

3. Be specific.

When you’re writing your vows, try to be as specific as possible. Generic statements like, “I will always love you” are nice, but they don’t really say much. What does “always” mean, anyway? A week? A month? A year? Forever? Be specific in your vows and say things like, “I will love you for the rest of my life” or “I will always be there for you, no matter what.”

4. Write from the heart.

Your vows should be a reflection of your deepest thoughts and feelings. Don’t try to be someone you’re not. Just be yourself and write from the heart.

5. Keep it simple.

Your vows don’t have to be long or complicated. In fact, it’s often better to keep them short and sweet. Just a few sentences can say a lot.

6. Practice, practice, practice.

Once you’ve written your vows, it’s important to practice them. This will help you to feel more comfortable and confident on your wedding day.

7. Have a backup plan.

No matter how well you prepare, there’s always a chance that you might forget your vows on your wedding day. So it’s a good idea to have a backup plan. Write your vows down on a piece of paper and keep them with you on the day of your wedding. That way, if you do forget your vows, you can simply read them from the paper.

Writing your own same-sex wedding vows is a special way of personalising your ceremony and making it unique to you as a couple. It’s also a way of deepening your relationship and communicating your thoughts and feelings to each other. So if you’re getting married, why not take the time to write your own vows?